Men’s Feelings Matter Too
With the development of feminism, we can notice a series of misconceptions and hatred towards men that seem to increase from day-to-day.
Undoubtedly, the emancipation of women has brought a significant change and a new facade to our society, giving women the chance to education, the chance to be heard and valued. But as the empowerment of women increases, the society seems to subtly belittle and demonize men.
Feminism means the improvement of women’s lives so they can enjoy equal rights and opportunities without punishing or denigrating men.
They (men) are often characterized as cheaters, insensitive, ruthless, aggressive and big babies who still need to grow up. But don’t we see women having the same behaviour? Yes, we do, but for some unknown reasons, women’s temper-tantrums are socially justified and considered to be caused by….men.
Men Suffer Too
Men have their own insecurities about the future, about themselves, they may feel powerless and inadequate when difficulties arise, but they do not start crying, yelling or unleash their frustration on every person around them. That is because men are wired differently than women. Their brain does not process and handles stress/pain as women do, but it does not mean that they are not affected. Sometimes they may find it difficult to put up a smile on their face, pretend that everything is ok and then figure out the right thing to say to their lover.
Women Can Be Insensitive Too
We rush to characterize men as being careless when they do not pay attention to certain details or when they do not compliment a new look but women can have acid comments about their partners, without thinking how deep they can hurt especially when:
- They scold their husbands/boyfriends as if they are children
Both women and men have skills that are meant to complement each other’s weaknesses. When one of them makes a mistake, the other one must come in to help and not criticize. Sadly, sometimes women turn into the biggest critics of their partners.
When you criticize your partner, he understands that you do not respect him or do not accept him as a person. He also feels that you do not think he is capable to reach his potential.
- They compare their partners to other men
Each man strives to do and be better, but sometimes opportunities do not appear when we want. Hence, professional progression may be delayed or any other plans. Comparing your partner to other men is the worst thing you can do. He is himself and you chose him for who he is. If you want him to improve and become a better version of himself, support him instead of acting ungrateful.
We are all equipped with a great set of skills and are unique in our own way. A woman has the ability to motivate a man and help him climb the ladder. It depends on how she uses this power.
- They do not appreciate their husband’s hard work
Women do deserve to be appreciated for raising children while building a career, but similarly, responsible men, look after their family while dealing with the burdens of their job. Thus, they deserve the same amount of appreciation.
Neither man nor woman is perfect or complete without the other. Thus, no marriage or family, no ward or stake is likely to reach its full potential until husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, men and women work together in unity of purpose, respecting and relying upon each other’s strengths.
Sheri L. Dew
It is About Equality
“Do to others what you would have them do to you” Matthew 7:12
Do you want to be appreciated? Appreciate
Do you want to be understood? Understand
Do you want to be listened to? Listen
Do you want to be loved? Love
Men can be as vulnerable as women. Be attentive to their needs, value their efforts, offer support and constructive advice.
When tensions appear, choose a straightforward conversation where emotions and thoughts are peacefully expressed. Do not use the silent treatment nor ignore the issues.
A successful marriage is determined by the ability to understand and work together as a team.