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Men’s Feelings Matter Too

With the development of feminism, we can notice a series of misconceptions and hatred towards men that seem to increase from day-to-day.

Undoubtedly, the emancipation of women has brought a significant change and a new facade to our society, giving women the chance to education, the chance to be heard and valued. But as the empowerment of women increases, the society seems to subtly belittle and demonize men.


Feminism means the improvement of women’s lives so they can enjoy equal rights and opportunities without punishing or denigrating men.


They (men) are often characterized as cheaters, insensitive, ruthless, aggressive and big babies who still need to grow up. But don’t we see women having the same behaviour? Yes, we do, but for some unknown reasons, women’s temper-tantrums are socially justified and considered to be caused by….men.

Men Suffer Too

Men have their own insecurities about the future, about themselves, they may feel powerless and inadequate when difficulties arise, but they do not start crying, yelling or unleash their frustration on every person around them. That is because men are wired differently than women. Their brain does not process and handles stress/pain as women do, but it does not mean that they are not affected. Sometimes they may find it difficult to put up a smile on their face, pretend that everything is ok and then figure out the right thing to say to their lover.

Women Can Be Insensitive Too

We rush to characterize men as being careless when they do not pay attention to certain details or when they do not compliment a new look but women can have acid comments about their partners, without thinking how deep they can hurt especially when:

  • They scold their husbands/boyfriends as if they are children

Both women and men have skills that are meant to complement each other’s weaknesses. When one of them makes a mistake, the other one must come in to help and not criticize. Sadly, sometimes women turn into the biggest critics of their partners.

When you criticize your partner, he understands that you do not respect him or do not accept him as a person. He also feels that you do not think he is capable to reach his potential.

  • They compare their partners to other men

Each man strives to do and be better, but sometimes opportunities do not appear when we want. Hence, professional progression may be delayed or any other plans. Comparing your partner to other men is the worst thing you can do. He is himself and you chose him for who he is. If you want him to improve and become a better version of himself, support him instead of acting ungrateful.

 

We are all equipped with a great set of skills and are unique in our own way. A woman has the ability to motivate a man and help him climb the ladder. It depends on how she uses this power.

  • They do not appreciate their husband’s hard work

Women do deserve to be appreciated for raising children while building a career, but similarly, responsible men, look after their family while dealing with the burdens of their job. Thus, they deserve the same amount of appreciation.


Neither man nor woman is perfect or complete without the other. Thus, no marriage or family, no ward or stake is likely to reach its full potential until husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, men and women work together in unity of purpose, respecting and relying upon each other’s strengths.

Sheri L. Dew


It is About Equality

“Do to others what you would have them do to you” Matthew 7:12

Do you want to be appreciated? Appreciate

Do you want to be understood? Understand

Do you want to be listened to? Listen

Do you want to be loved? Love

Men can be as vulnerable as women. Be attentive to their needs, value their efforts, offer support and constructive advice.

When tensions appear, choose a straightforward conversation where emotions and thoughts are peacefully expressed. Do not use the silent treatment nor ignore the issues.

A successful marriage is determined by the ability to understand and work together as a team.


12 Comments

Davor Gasparac · April 30, 2018 at 6:31 pm

Thanx

Ragazza Triste · April 30, 2018 at 8:46 pm

Yes. Men should be respected as well, just because you are e feminist doesn’t mean you can neglect the same rights that Men does.

    Andreea Vaduva

    Andreea Vaduva · May 1, 2018 at 2:33 am

    Indeed! Both women and men deserve to be loved, looked after and appreciated.
    Thank you for your time and comment 🙂

maskeddisguise · April 30, 2018 at 8:48 pm

Instead of making a world of feminism we should aim towards making a world where equality between everyone, justice for everyone exists !

    Andreea Vaduva

    Andreea Vaduva · May 1, 2018 at 2:34 am

    Indeed! Both women and men deserve to be happy and must have the same rights! Nobody should matter more than the other.. We are equal.
    Thank you for your time and comment 🙂

Paru Sharma

Paru Sharma · April 30, 2018 at 8:52 pm

Ture lines

    Andreea Vaduva

    Andreea Vaduva · May 1, 2018 at 2:35 am

    Thank you for your appreciation and for sharing the same idea as me 🙂

Onyemomma · April 30, 2018 at 11:50 pm

I have always been taught and I live by this, Men need to feel respected and women need to feel loved. If you show respect to your man he will without a doubt respond with love. Of course we are imperfect but following that basic rule of thumb can really help. Excellent Article! I think men are not praised enough and I am glad you took the moment to do that.

    Andreea Vaduva

    Andreea Vaduva · May 1, 2018 at 2:39 am

    Thank you for your appreciation and indeed men must not be portrayed as villains. They have feelings too just like women. Are there mean men? Yes, but so are women. We can’t say that one sex is better than the other. They both have their qualities and must receive the same amount of appreciation.

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