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Do We Really Want Justice For The Kathua Rape-Murder Victim Asifa?

The story of gory gang rape and murder of an eight year old Asifa in Jammu & Kashmir’s Kathua and the gang rape of another minor in Uttar Pradesh’s Unnao grew across the country like a wild-fire.

The brutal gang rape and murder of an eight-year old girl has sparked outrage and anger across India, the headlines read.

The men the police have arrested include a retired government official, four police officers and a minor – all of them belong to a local Hindu community that has been involved in a land dispute with the Muslim nomads.

I have a few issues with this. I am completely against this barbaric act of inhumanity, but is it really these people who committed the crime who are to be blamed?

I don’t think so!

First, we should blame ourselves. We have been witnessing such crimes for years. We have been seeing things happen in front of us. But, what do we do? Close our eyes and walk past! Why? Why does everyone neglect those little crimes of eve-teasing and women abuse happening on every street of India, on every single day? And then, when those same people take a step further and rape someone, all of us take banners and candles in our hands and walk out on the streets, protesting. Why? Did you try to stop that eve-teaser, that molester, or that guy who followed some random woman every day? No! You didn’t. And, you never will.

But when that same person rapes someone and murders her, you will not miss out on lighting a candle and making a banner with some great quote copied from google written on it, and walk out on the streets asking for justice. This is all you can do. Or I should say, this is all you want to do!

Second, we should blame the government and our judicial system. It is the government who will never take this matter seriously. Our government hasn’t ever cared for the women. What does our law do? If the crime is committed by someone who is poor and has no approach to the higher level, he is punished with a few years in jail and then released. And if the crime is committed by someone who has a good say in the system, the court says two beautiful words after the hearing, “Baizzat Bari” (Released with all due respect).

This is the state of our judiciary! This is the state of our nation! This is the state of our government!

And all the outrage and anger fizzes away after a few days. The crime and the criminals are forgotten and all the people asking for justice get lost in the darkness of anonymity, never to seen again until another such act happens.

This is it! This is what we do! This is what India, the fastest growing nation! We get over things really soon.

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MacThule · April 19, 2018 at 2:29 am

Individuals absolutely are created by the society they grow in, but in even the best possible society there will be weak individuals who cannot control their own actions. Unless every individual is held fully accountable for the actions they take with their own hands, there will be no incentive to respect the lives and bodies of others.

“Government” wasn’t holding her down.

“Judicial System” didn’t jab her with drugs.

Society is an abstraction, it doesn’t actually exist. It’s composed of the individual choices of individuals taken as a collection. Failures of a government, the need to reform a judiciary, these are important to address, and individuals need to act directly every day to make the world better, but these facts do not excuse individuals from their personal responsibilities for their actions.

If reforms are needed, that doesn’t mean that weak-willed, corrupt and wicked men and women should not also be held accountable for things which would be a crime in any country in any century. Otherwise how can we blame the individuals responsible for judiciary corruption for accepting a bribe either?

They had a free choice.

They knowingly chose to completely destroy a human being in every conceivable way. These pathetic cowards calling themselves “men” should absolutely be blamed, so that others see that they themselves are also accountable, no matter what else is going on. Because government will ALWAYS be corrupt. Courts will ALWAYS be corrupt.

The corrupt government and judiciary should be blamed as well, of course, but not more than the individuals. They have free will.

Eliza · April 19, 2018 at 10:15 am

I’m glad someone is talking about this. The problem isn’t just the men who commit these crimes. It’s the women and the families that raise them.

When the Nirbhaya rape case took place, I happened upon a discussion – among older women – about ‘Aajkal ki ladki’ and about how they dress.

They don’t seem to understand that rape is a crime of violence and rage and seem to want to cling to beliefs that it’s about dress code. I asked them if their sons were rapists, because the women in their society don’t always wear traditional clothes. And they said no, that any young child or woman would be safe with their sons, and that they’ve brought their sons up better. Yet, no one’s talking bout that!

Women who are new to a housing society are questioned – by other women in the society whenever they have a male guest – even when that male guest is a relative or a teen young enough to be their son! Some societies don’t allow single women living on rent to have any male guests, even their brothers or family members!

These dirty minded women need to know, and to understand the relationship between a woman and her guest, and only then can they acknowledge that the woman who is new to the society is decent and worthy of their respect. I learned this when we moved residence many times.

How can we change men, when the ones who raise them stoop so low?

Dhwani · May 11, 2018 at 11:26 am

This case was heartbreaking but definitely not shocking because incidents such as these are becoming daily news now in India. The corrupt system, dragging politics and religion into a such an issue, all disgust me. Its like, there is no humanity left in people.
We should be teaching about these in school but the conservative society thay we are leads to children not knowing right from wrong because they are NEVER TAUGHT right from wrong.
We have a long way to go as a nation when it comes to gender equality, respect and safety. Till then, we should keep all women in our prayers.
Recently, I wrote a poem, potraying my anger and concern towards the lies we hear, the lies we are told regarding rapes and women. I tried to reach out to people because that is the least we can do. Please to check it out, my writing on justice for asifa.

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