Toxic Relationships: A Different Perspective

I have had a lifetime full of toxic relationships. As an Empath, and because of my desire to always help people, I always attracted those that needed help. This was both positive and negative: the positive was the fulfilment I experienced from helping people; the negative was the exhaustion and other problems that arose from helping those that didn’t want to help themselves. And it was only in 2017 when I found the courage to make positive life choices and remove those toxic relationships from my life.

I have read plenty of articles, blogs, stories and advices from others who have had similar experiences but there are few that honour the Spiritual reasons for such a relationship.

I always seek out the truth of life; the truth of why things happen the way they do. I find that gaining understanding is the only way to receive lasting healing and release all the pain. (This is the main reason that the readings I give are of a Spiritual nature, aimed at understanding karma and life purpose.)

Every person that enters our lives, comes with a purpose. It maybe as simple as bringing fun, or as complex as helping us to learn to forgive through repeated hurts and traumas. Whatever the reason, I believe that it is important to honour the souls that caused us the most pain, because they are our greatest teachers.
Some years ago, I wrote a lot of poetry. It helped me to express what was going on inside of me. The poem that follows is one such poem.

When I look at you I see myself, the imperfections and every flaw;
It doesn’t seem that long ago that you and I were always at war.
The evil looks; the cruel words; so may times I wished you away.
You pulled me down; you caged me in; you took my joy, my sense of play.

You tried to take control of me, pull my strings and dominate;
But I rebelled which made things worse; fuelling anger, causing hate.
You bullied me and criticised and chipped away at my esteem;
You picked on me in front of friends and laughed at me; you were so mean.

If I went to cuddle you I always got your cold hard shell.
I questioned you about your love, but all we seemed to do was yell.
It got so bad I thought I’d leave; more than once I packed a bag.
You never seemed to give me space; you always were a constant nag.

I look back now and wonder how I stayed with you for many years;
After all you damaged me and helped me build me greatest fears.
One day I changed; I saw the light and I awoke from deep dark pain;
I took a step outside myself and saw there was so much to gain.

I realise now you are my guide, you taught me wrong so I learned right;
So all the pain, the hurt, the rage, I let it go into the light.
Without you, I wouldn’t be me; it’s thanks to you I’ve come so far;
And now I stand so strong and wise, because of you my shining star.

I hope you enjoyed this post. If so, please share – I have plenty more poems!

Love and peace.

Elizabeth Keedy

Hey! I love to give my creativity its full expression through words, through pictures, through many mediums. I also live a mystical life where I bring the voice of spirit to Earth.


Ashok Misra · March 30, 2018 at 11:38 pm

Marvelous Elizabeth! It’s amazing how you picked the silver lining from your darkest cloud, and made it your torch to dispel all darkness from your life. So full of positivity overcoming the toxic! Keep it up, and stay blessed!

    Elizabeth Keedy · March 30, 2018 at 11:54 pm

    Thank you Ashok! It fills me with joy to share my experiences and creativity in the hope of inspiring others. Blessings to you too 🙂

maskeddisguise · March 31, 2018 at 10:56 am

Cheers to being strong and leaving the darkness behind !

personalgrowthsuccessblog · April 29, 2018 at 12:39 am

I really enjoyed reading this post and I’m glad I came across it!! 🙂

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