There is a simple rule in life: ‘Things come and go, but so do people’. It looks simple at first sight, but when we have to put this thing into practice we hit a huge wall and fall on our backs. You know, I have been wondering for sometime now why on earth somethings come in my life only to disappear when I needed them the most. I know I am not the only one who had to face this struggle. We all have questions in life about different aspects that concern us, but sometimes we seem to run around in circles trying to find out the right answers.
An interesting fact that I have recently discovered (and dare say ‘better later than ever!’) is that no matter how far the things you wish you had in your life go they always end up back to you. Think about it like a boomerang effect. No matter how hard you throw it, it always finds its way back. Funny thing is that it doesn’t require your intervention to do so (ok…maybe there can be a few exceptions!). The same thing happens with people. They enter your life, giving you joy or sorrow, happy or sad moments, but at some point they may leave your life. There can be a lot of causes for this, but the main ones are a) you either had an argument or b) they are forever gone from this life.
About the first cause, a lot can happen between two people. They can become very good friends, start trusting each other maybe even get married. You may never know what life brings you! There is this ‘honeymoon phase’ in every kind of relationship when we learn about each other and do a lot of things together. It, somehow, connects us in a spiritual way. After a while, monotony enters the stage and we get to see different sides of the person next to us. Some we like, some we don’t…and here begins our test. The relationships that last are the ones that have passed this test. It’s actually about accepting each others flaws and being capable to step on our pride sometimes. It’s about seeing the good in everyone and understanding that nobody is perfect (not even ourselves). A lot of people can’t do this, they can’t connect any further so the bond breaks. It can be a sudden break or a gradual one. No matter the type the ending is the same. We stop seeing each other, stop texting, calling, it can go even to stop saying ‘hi!’. And then it hurts! It hurts, because you thought you found someone who is there for you unconditionally, someone you can call at 2 a.m. if you had an emergency…
What can you do? What can you do to stop the pain from affecting you more and more everyday? You just have to let them go! Yes! I know it’s so easy so say this, but trust me it’s totally worth giving a try. It’s not easy at first, but slowly, day by day, you recover. I have experienced different situations when I had to press the pause button. I just let things be as they were. I stopped giving so much importance to some aspects in life and just continued my daily routine without them. I was extremely surprised to see that when I stopped consuming my energy for these problems they actually started to solve all by themselves. The people who I left behind came back to me one way or another (of course I couldn’t stop myself from thinking ‘what goes around comes around’). Maybe it didn’t feel the same way as before, but it surely gave me a lesson and thought me something. I can’t say that I haven’t repeated the experience multiple times and that I won’t make the same mistakes again, but the good thing is I know how to react at them. I have learned the ‘symptoms’ and now I know the cure.
In life we can try to do things the way we want and never accept that there are some unexpected situations that actually try our limits or we can try to go with the wave and learn from every punch in the face. It’s all up to us. Don’t you ever forget that the sum is constantly ‘0’ in life. You win and you lose, you can do good (and in return the boomerang will bring you the same thing) or you can do bad (and you will receive it maybe even multiplied). Every action in your life is counted.
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