What’s In The Suitcase?
What’s love got to do with it?
YOU are your first example of a loving relationship; YOU are the calling card of the love in your life, of what you feel for yourself and others.
Where do we learn about what “love” is? Our immediate families of course.
God only knows all the baggage they did not unpack before they decided to bring another human on board. We, being born into their lives forced our parents to start unpacking. As a result, we get to reap the contents of that suitcase.
As we get older, we branch out from our parents. We make friends and discover more about how we relate or not, to others; We get to wear the content of our parent’s idea of fashionable behaviors in public; their rendition of what love feels and looks like. Then the game of life begins; after all, conflict is the cornerstone of any reasonable relationship, Right? Only time will tell.
We have grand ideas of what love is, but our emotional wiring of what love feels like isn’t always congruent with what we think, feel and know we want it to be.
Extraction comes to my mind. We try to get something out of someone that we believe will make us feel whole, feel the love we so deservedly want, need and desire.
Our ideas of what “real love” is- is skewed at best. We are ruled and motivated by our emotions, that is just how we are wired for love.
The journey of our lives to find ourselves begins; we start to plug into different people, we feel mixed emotions; we get lifted, we get crushed. We are on the magical mystery tour of love and life, to learn that the only real love is self-love, and with that gift, we can love everyone else independently with great appreciation.
The Idea that someone completes us, is total hogwash in my opinion. YOU complete YOU, everyone else is just the icing on the cake in your life.
If we can get honest; and begin to feel, look and see how we treat ourselves, we will discover that there is a direct correlation to what we are willing to endure from another. Best to be present to ourselves when engaging with others, that is the best indicator of how we are treating ourselves.
Love of self is a healthy sense of well-being, a daily dose of gratitude; it is a gentle presence of mutual respect, empathy, compassion and Divine Grace.
When we love ourselves, we can love and enjoy without too much expectation and more appreciation for what luggage the other brings to our journey.
Love flows through, and we actualize our Divine Selves. Dolby Dharma
Scarcity of self-love, self-value cannot be remedied by money, recognition, affection, attention or influence.
― Gary Zukav