Love may always be linked to intimacy and joy but I believe it is also closely related to dying. When you truly love someone, you are willing to die for this person. To die to one’s self is to put other’s needs above yours. Love does not consent what is not right. It pursues justice. Love is indeed patient and does not keep a record of wrongs. When someone you love wronged you, once you decide to forgive, make sure there is no record of it. You may not forget, but you choose not to keep the wrong done, and get a move on. Love also tells us when to hold on and when to let go, when to keep it and when to throw away.
You heard people say, ‘you cannot give what you do not have’. Unless your source of love is unlimited, you’ll end up tired and broken when you run out of it. God is the ultimate model of love. He is the perfect Lover. He has loved us not because we are lovable, but because He is Love himself. His love for us is not based on our deeds but on His unchanging nature. Wouldn’t that be an awesome lover to have? And the ultimate showcase of love was shown in the death of Christ. Yes he did it for our sins, but it was His great love for us that nailed Him to the cross. It’s easy to love someone who’s been good to us. But how do you love someone who’s hurt you? Who has trampled on your feelings? How do you love a person who took you for granted? It has always puzzled me how God did it. How can God love such a wicked person like me? That’s the beauty of God’s love. That’s the greatness of His forgiveness. We can only love and forgive by receiving this great love and forgiveness that God freely gives. If God has given love for free, who am I to demand love in return of love? If it expects something in return, then it is not love, it is barter. If God has forgiven me and took Jesus’s death as payment for my sins, who am I to make someone pay for their sins?
Love is dying to self.
It is about letting go of pain and hatred.
And second chances.