The Search For The One(s)

I lay here and look out of the window as it rained and the raindrops make me feel some kind of way. It reminds me I haven’t found the one yet. It’s taking longer than I expected but then I like the wait. I am not in so much of a hurry, not yet, still, I fear I don’t have too much time. I believe deep down inside, every girl knows what she wants, I am that type of girl that knows what she wants, I might get confused along the line, struggle with indecision, but at the end of the day, I know what I want. Which leads me to the question, How many times can one actually love? Throughout the course of our lives, we love as many times possible because the human heart has a bad habit of being hopeful.

So we live, believing and hoping that there is that one meant for us, out of all those ones we are lucky or destined to meet, have a connection with and maybe fall in love with.  Even after we get hurt we still pick ourselves up and put ourselves out there, again and again, thinking, “My heart might be bruised, but it will recover and become capable of seeing the beauty of life once more. It’s happened before, it will happen again, I’m sure. When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive–I’ll find love again.” Lang Lea said, “What if I told you that one day you will meet a guy who is unlike anyone else you’ve known. He will know all the right things to say, what makes you laugh, what turns you on, what drives you wild and best of all, you will do for him exactly what he does for you.” That will be one heck of a guy I tell you.

Who Do We Want?

That person that makes your heart beat fast and makes your heart skip a beat at the same time? like an aphrodisiac, you can’t get enough. The one who knows how to press your buttons but most importantly, knows when to stop. That person that can get you to change your mind with just one single line. One you can be weird with and feel totally okay. That person that doesn’t try to change you. The one that knows that you are not like any other person! I want that person that knows I am stubborn and would want to have my way most of the time but stands his ground when he has to, even though I might act like it annoys me, I love it.

I want someone I can have a conversation with, from talking about the weather to exchanging ideas and opinion over how the world should be, argue about silly stuff and talk about other people behind there backs. Someone no subject will ever be awkward to discuss with, even when it is, we will learn to work through it. Someone, I can enjoy silence with and knows when some privacy is needed. That person that loves to live and take chances, knowing fully that I am solidly behind him every step of the way. The one that counts on me as much as I count on him. Someone I will make future plans together with, as partners and believe in each other every step of the way.

Every Woman’s Dream!

Isn’t that every young woman’s dream? To know and love God, herself, family and have amazing friends. To grow up smart, open-minded, confident and beautiful. To have a career she is passionate about. To have the world at her feet. To be strong, wise and live life to the fullest. To meet and fall in love with a man that knows her worth, who respects her and loves her to the moon and back. I believe that’s a girl’s dream, ‘to find the one’. Remembering you have to kiss lots of frogs to find your prince, let me say, ‘go through all the ones to meet the one’.

I am not an ‘Oliver Twist’ but truthfully, I want more. What I really want is to be one of the lucky ones, who go through life loving as much as they can. “Who says you only get one? If you’re lucky, you will meet The One, The Two, The Three…..and so on. But for now, all I need to do is enjoy this tiny bubble of peace and believe that life is dealing me a hand much better than I deserve. Like Mandy Hale said, “Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.”

Christine Chioma

I am a Nigerian writer who believes in living life to the fullest.


Deepika · February 27, 2018 at 12:26 pm

Exactly. Love will happen when it is destined to. But it is not all about love. There is much more to do.

Kelly · March 8, 2018 at 4:25 pm

Powerful and beautiful x

Dani-Kaye Golding · March 10, 2018 at 8:29 pm

I totally agree with Deepika. So so so much to do. Good piece. Thanks for sharing.

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