Love, Lust and Loneliness

Love and lust are best explained by Dante, the great poet. In his poem “La Vita Nuova”, he writes about a woman named Beatrice, for whom he expresses spiritual love. Later in his poetic masterpiece “The Divine Comedy”, Dante takes us through the realms of Hell, familiarizing us with the nine circles of Hell. The second circle is Lust, where the poet visualizes Beatrice is taken a bride by Lucifer, citing Dante’s betrayal to Beatrice for having physical intimacy with a slave girl. Even, the great poet wasn’t relieved from the fangs of Lust and he did commit the mistake of betraying his beloved, thereby losing her to Lucifer. However metaphorical, this poem is my inspiration to pen down this topic and express my views to you, all.

In this blog, I will take a step further and explore their relation to the most common psychological disease most of us are grappled with, the loneliness.

Apart from being alliterative, these three words are somehow related to each other. You might be thinking how?

Well, I think most of us crave for a life where we will have ample space for being alone but not lonely, and in that process, we sometimes desire for someone who can fulfill our thirst for love. This basic human nature doesn’t allow us to differentiate between love and lust. The aching for bodily love or sometimes lust can suppress our loneliness for short span of time but not for a long period. Most of us have this nature to mistake such a momentary pleasure as a lifelong affair.

Let me share with you, a particular instance that might help you all to understand what I exactly mean to say.

One of my friends has filed divorce against his wife. The reason for their divorce is an extramarital affair.One fine day, his sudden return from the usual business trip brought surprise to him, his wife and her boyfriend. It was more painful for him as he caught them in the same bed where they had spent their first night. When confronted, she blamed him for her affair. She said that she felt lonely at home while he was always out of town for business trips. She was tired of waiting and wanted someone to make love with.

I think this is one of the most common reasons behind divorce nowadays. Being alone and being lonely are two different things. She was not home alone. She has a child too. She also has a good circle of friends to hang out with.

On one hand, we may be surrounded by thousands of people, but we can feel lonely inside and on the other hand, the presence of only one person is enough for us to live our lives happily without having the desire of needing someone else.

We call ourselves the intelligently superior to all the other animals in the Animal Kingdom ~ the Human Beings, hence, we can control our lust. At the same time because of this very nature of ours, we cannot live long in solitude without any desire for love.

We may find Love, Lust and Loneliness somehow interconnected. But in reality, they are parallel to each other and can only meet if we lose our control on any one of them.

Lovestruck # @satire ♡ ♡

Anuskha Ghosh

A sociologist by profession and a blogger by passion.Blogger at


geetssaini · February 26, 2018 at 5:40 pm

much to think about

    Anuskha Ghosh · February 26, 2018 at 7:40 pm

    Thank you for your valuable comment. You can follow more of my blogs at

Leah · February 26, 2018 at 5:53 pm

Great insight!

Anuskha Ghosh · February 26, 2018 at 7:41 pm

Thank you Leah. You can follow my blogs at lovestruck,

Anjali Ghosh · February 26, 2018 at 9:00 pm

An interesting take on human emotion.

Zakir · February 27, 2018 at 12:22 pm

We live in age where love no longer remains. It is all about lust.

    Anuskha Ghosh · February 28, 2018 at 12:27 am

    Love is something that your soul can feel and lust is something that your body can relate with. I personally believe when two souls can relate with each other then only the magic called love happens. However sometimes it can be illusion too.

    Anuskha Ghosh · February 28, 2018 at 12:28 am

    Thank you for your valuable comment.

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