Accept whatever happened. Here, everything that happens, just happens. Good or bad, are our judgements. Leaving behind good or bad, just accept and move ahead in life.
It is difficult, but accepting the reality is the only way. If you run away from whatever happened, it won’t let you move ahead. Life is very simple and beautiful if a person accepts the things without running away from Truth.
Facing all the problems & situations without any judgement, is what the life is all about!
Keep smiling dear.😄
One more thing… Love is a state of being. Love never creates problems in life. Our dreams are the problem. Our attachments and desires are the problem. Our ideas that we cling on to about how things should be – that is the problem.
And our ego doesn’t want to accept the fact that our dreams have been shattered. It doesn’t want to face the reality. Have you noticed how the mind goes on feeding the wounds of a ‘broken heart’ by endlessly running the story of what happened to us? Endlessly chewing on the ‘What if’s’. Like a tongue constantly returning to the hole left by a tooth that was removed by the dentist. It just can’t let it go, can it?
It is our own expectations which hurt us the most. And when someone is not able to fulfill our expectations, it is our ego that makes us feel hurt/broken.
That is why it is very difficult to completely let go off the people who we feel have ‘hurt’ us. We either go on carrying an illusion that the love will somehow miraculously be rekindled, that the other will see the light and come back to us, or we carry hate and revenge against them. We may think we have cut them out of our lives, but every time we see them or hear about them, we have an emotional reaction. And despite our best endeavors, they keep coming back into our thoughts whenever we feel vulnerable or lonely.
The only way to really let someone go, and thus be free to get on with our lives, is with gratitude for what they did gave us. Or at least with a focus on appreciating their good qualities, rather than harping on their bad ones. This is not at all easy for the mind, the ego, which would much rather stay with blame and complaint. But it is not difficult for the heart, for the energetic ♥ heart..
The heart 💓 has the capacity to see the positive even in someone whom the mind can only see as a monster. That is because the heart doesn’t compare and doesn’t have ideals. It doesn’t have dreams or hopes. It simply sees the present reality, without judging. Judging is a quality of the mind, not the heart, because it requires comparison.
I hope you have an energetic 💓, so from now on, you will look into positive aspects of life and move ahead with happiness. Have a beautiful life. 😄
It is easy to move forward only if you listen to your 💓 heart. Unlike the mind, or ego, the heart doesn’t take personally whatever happened. It understands that the person has their own problems, their own vulnerability and their own limits that make them behave the way they do. And that has nothing to do with you. Their behavior is their way of covering up their own wounds, fears and needs. With that understanding, compassion arises. And with that compassion, you can finally let that person go and find peace for yourself.