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Why Are Muslim Women Always Ruled By Men?

And then we talk about protecting the rights of Muslim women by banning “Triple Talaq”!

Islamic Seminary Darul Uloom Deoband recently issued another fatwa asking the Muslim women not to let the shopkeepers help them wear bangles at shops. They have marked it as “wrong and a big sin”.
This fatwa was issued on the query of a resident of Deoband town who asked whether it was right for women to let a strange man help them wear bangles.
In response, a decision was taken by the seminary that it was absolutely fine if the women bring the bangles from the shop and wear them. “But if they let the male shopkeeper touch their hands, it is not good and ‘Haram’, the fatwa read.
Now shall we point out the Islamic seminary here, or the Indian government?
Does the same Indian government who indulged in the matter of “Triple Talaq” and did everything they could to ban it, not enter this new scene created by the seminary which is a bit weird? Is the decision of Islamic seminary correct? Even if it is, the question is, to what extent?
Why are women made to compromise on every step? I don’t say that they should let any strange man touch them, but I also don’t think that this decision is right. On what basis did the Islamic Seminary took this decision? Did they measure all the men on the same scale and termed them as rapists and molesters? Or did they just took another decision without any proper reason as they usually do?
Even the Muslim scholars of Deoband town supported the fatwa. “It is correct that women can’t talk to strangers or meet them as per sharia. In that light, letting male shopkeepers touch their arms to help them wear bangles is wrong.” Mufti Tariz Qasmi, a cleric in town said.
My question is, Why? Why should women always suffer and compromise? Why aren’t they treated equally? Just because there are a few men who make the world unsafe for women, it doesn’t mean that every person is the same. Why should they always made to suffer on every front? I am not saying that they should be allowed to let the shopkeepers to help them wear bangles or anything, but they should at least be allowed to live their life the way they want to. Stop controlling them on every single step.

What’s next? Can we expect the seminary to issue another ‘Fatwa’ stating that the Muslim Women shouldn’t even allow the Doctors to touch them as it is ‘Haram’.

No matter even if she dies, she shouldn’t let the doctor touch her. Right?

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Anonymous · February 13, 2018 at 9:32 pm

This is a serious issue. We need to to deal with it. You made a great point. Especially the last line. Humorous yet serious.


    Sadah · February 13, 2018 at 11:17 pm

    This indeed is a serious issue which should be dealt with as soon as possible.

Anonymous · February 13, 2018 at 10:14 pm

We never work for our women.


    Sadah · February 13, 2018 at 11:18 pm

    I can’t agree more.

Pola · February 13, 2018 at 10:37 pm

I think for all your readers outside India it would be helpful for you to define “triple talaq” – Talaq means “divorce” within Sha’ria law. Are you referring to the three “I divorce yous” considered a binding divorce in Islam? I am a bit confused and it would be nice to get that clarified.

I am a Muslim woman in the U.K. and have never been comfortable when I visit the bazaar to have ‘ghair’ or strange men touching me when buying bangles or for whatever reason. However I have occasionally had assistance from a male clerk when getting shoes fitted in the UK. I try to limit this as much as possible, but generally know that they are doing this with a service intention, nothing more intimate than that. It all about the context and the intention. I have actually stopped buying jewellery that jingles too much in line with the hijab principle to ‘cover your adornments.’

I once went to a lecture for people applying to Medical School and Doctor impressed upon everyone the privilege of healing people, and the fact that sometimes in the interests of healing the sick, social or religious norms must respectfully be challenged, especially if it increases a person’s life chances. However, their wishes must also be respected at the final decision. Honestly, any woman in the throes of labour will get to a point where she won’t care what man sees her, as long as he gets that baby out of her! This type of fatwa wouldn’t be necessary if more women were allowed to have jobs in areas where women would be happy to be served by other women. I once heard a ridiculous case where in Saudi, women were not being considered at application stage to work in a lingerie store. This is very awkward for the customers concerned and far more socially and religiously problematic on modesty terms than bangles or shoes. Ooof! I still have no real conclusion, sorry. It’s a personal decision, it’s silly to force it.


    Sadah · February 13, 2018 at 11:17 pm

    Yes, I am talking about the three I divorce you’s which recently have been in news in India termed as against women’s rights, which I completely to. Rest, I think these lawas being made are completely stupid and baseless in general. These should rather just be based on one’s own discretion and choice. Isn’t it?

      Pola · February 14, 2018 at 1:23 am

      I believe in discretion and choice, yes.

      If a divorce is conducted, it should be done through court, not on a breeze in a moment of anger.

      Rulings are already clear in the Qur’an, act on them how you see best in light of that guidance, because you are accountable for your own actions at the end of the day, and there is no compulsion in religion.

Anonymous · February 14, 2018 at 8:34 am

Really it is a very serious matter to be given a thought.

Noor_87Khan · February 14, 2018 at 3:53 pm

touching someone’s hand or any part of body forcefully is wrong..these shopkeeper I am pretty sure are not doing it comes down to the woman, its entirely her choice weather she would wear the bangle herself or take help of the shopkeeper..fatwa or no fatwa

Yuliya · February 20, 2018 at 3:24 pm

It’s really incredible to see this coming from a man. Great post, great spirit and insights! I am fortunate enough to live in a western world, but I think that those who have these privileges of freedom should raise an awareness about those who don’t

ankitaa01 · February 28, 2018 at 2:19 pm


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