When we are younger we think our friends will be there for us throughout our entire lives. We go through elementary school, middle school, and high school together. These are friends we’ve known for 6-10 years, there’s no way we can see our life without them. But, we go to college, possibly not to the same college, and maybe hundreds, possibly thousands of miles away from one another. The first year still seems like nothing has changed in these friendships, but once we start making more friends in college, and the more we grow, we start to drift further apart from each other. We probably don’t notice this at first, and won’t until we leave college. I get it, it sucks, and it can hurt. Not understanding how we were all really close, then out of nowhere, it seems most of us don’t talk anymore. And to be honest, it’s perfectly okay if that happens.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve lost childhood friends, but I’ve also gained many friends as an adult. Sometimes hanging on to childhood friends isn’t the healthiest for us. There’s a possibility we might not have the same goals, interests, or lifestyles anymore. It’s unfortunate, and maybe a bit rude, but I’ve let some friendships go because I didn’t want a negative influence in my life. Plus there’s a possibility we might not be in the same stages of life. You’re not a terrible person wanting to end those friendships, or not be in touch as much. Some friendships are only meant to be temporary, or happen for a specific part of your life. And if you’re not the one who ended the friendship, don’t take it personally. Just appreciate the good times that came from that friendship, and maybe down the road, you can reconnect. I think it’s natural at first to be disheartened by this, but as I’ve gotten older, and more mature, I value the strong friendships I have now. I might not have a lot of childhood friendships currently, but maybe we’ll reconnect down the road.
“The language of friendship is not words but meanings.”