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Humans have an inherent quality of being hugely conscious of their physical appearance. We continuously worry about our external attributes and become depressed when there is an advent of change in them.

We are anxious when we gain weight or  witness flabby layers on our body, in spite of all the efforts we have been doing to prevent it. We sulk when our skin starts sagging, irrespective of all the time, money & care we devote to it. We worry when signs of ageing start emerging on our overall appearance.

However, from past few days there have been some reoccurring thoughts flashing my mind; what is the use of worrying so much for the things that are beyond our control and is pointless to think about an issue which is a natural progression and is universal. The only thing possible is to keep ourselves on a maintenance mode and prevent anything drastic to happen because beyond that there is nothing that can be done.

However, the most crucial thing that needs to be understood is that it’s okay to age, it’s okay to have a sagging skin, it’s okay to have blemishes, it’s okay to have not so good hair, it’s okay to have a bad complexion, it’s okay to gain weight if it is beyond our control and it’s okay to experience many more things that happen to us as we age. All these changes are inevitable and are a part of the natural growth but we tirelessly try to elude them.

We draw meaningless comparisons with others and attempt to match them. But, rightfully, we all must understand that each individual is different and should accept that it is perfectly all right if with growing age we start seeing flaws in our appearance and hence should not worry or sulk about it. All that we can do is to preserve what is left, but there too it is needless to overdo, i.e. spending thousands on various senseless treatments and medicines .No therapist can reverse the graph of our growth or ageing .It is a mere misconception that treatments can prevent ageing; the maximum they can do is to hide the real picture.

We should learn to take things in their stride and should not over think about them. We should accept all our physical changes gracefully and try to live with them happily. Over-thinking about them will worsen the situation ;as stress we all know has an adverse effect on the body.

If we evaluate, the biggest cause of this anxiety is the glamour that we see around us; on social media, both print & electronics and in films and the problem begins when we try to imitate that. What we must understand is that what we see is an artificial picture of the actual reality. It is only for the glamour world and in reality even these people; who make huge efforts to hide their real picture, have a second face, which in realism is at times shocking to see.

So, no matter how much money you have, no matter whether you have an access to the best treatments, cosmetics & therapies, ageing will still happen. The physical changes will surely happen and nobody can escape them. If money could buy youth, beauty and perfect physical appearance than the Queen of England or many other powerful and famous celebrities  would have stayed young forever but all of them have been ageing gracefully with each passing year. There are many examples of the rich and wealthy  who are role models for everyone but who too cannot prevent the cycle of life and are unable to remain in their youth forever.

Hence, it is perfectly alright to experience various physical changes at various life stages. It is all right to gain weight, to age and experience the physical transition. One should experience everything gracefully and there is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of and of emulating others.

So, the crux is; it is okay to lose the beauty that we had adorned in our youth, it happens to every living being.

Mamta Sehgal


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Mamta Sehgal

An educator,a believer and now an author.An ardent devotee of the all eternal Shri Krishna & Bhagavad Gita and propagates that the light is within & can illuminate everything.


Arjun · February 9, 2018 at 7:04 pm

I want to agree but if you’re satisfied with yourself you stop working towards getting better. And getting better is an essential pursuit. Not that everyone should obsess with their looks and how society sees them, setting personal targets when it comes to fitness and dressing properly in public aren’t bad things. Personally I hate it when people feel confident when they walk out of the house in their shorts and flip flops. I find it disgusting. Just my opinion. I thought I would share.

mamtasehgal31 · February 10, 2018 at 12:37 pm

Maintenance of course is the game…we have to preserve what we have but we should do it without getting too much worried about it and understanding that the deterioration is bound to happen and thus it’s okay….Truly agree with your contention of how people carelessly conduct themselves and on top of it consider themselves super cool.

Anonymous · February 12, 2018 at 1:34 pm

What’s important is, how beautiful you are on the inside. Because externally, you are gorgeous one day, and the other day, you may be… or may be not.

Michele Peterson

Michele Peterson · February 14, 2018 at 11:26 pm

I recently saw a wonderful photo. It featured a lovely older woman and said, “Don’t regret growing older, it is a privilege denied to many”. I, myself have written on this subject, and it all comes down to this: Outer beauty fades. Inner beauty remains constant. The only one you need to impress is yourself.

Mamta Sehgal

Mamta Sehgal · February 15, 2018 at 12:39 pm


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