What made me write “What to do when you get friendzoned?” ?

The “What to do when you get friendzoned?” is based on a personal experience. 

I have a very close friend, almost my bestfriend, we just happened to be not so fond of putting labels in relationships. 

We talked everyday about anything and everything, our whereabouts, what we’re currently doing, what we will do, whatever it is that we can think of, until one day he invited me for a dinner, something we casually do. 

Dinner time comes, he talked about some random woman he just met. I know that the woman caught his attention and that is unusual because he doesn’t really care about the ladies who are trying to catch his attention. Only this one. 

I started to feel uneasy. I know jealousy is creeping in my chest. I know something in me has changed. 

I have already fallen for my “bestfriend” and I don’t like it. I was a mess. I was confused whether I should tell him or not. I don’t know what to do. I started to act differently. 

One day, during our late night talks, he asked if I already feel differently towards him. I have been too obvious. He told me he wasn’t ready for any relationships. I told him that I don’t really like how I feel for him and I don’t want him to be my boyfriend, yet. Not now, maybe after five years but not now. 

We came to an agreement to stay as friends. Just friends. 

It was a rough journey. You’ll always be afraid to lose him just because you loved him. Things got awkward at first but our friendship remained, our friendship endured and so does my feelings. 


13 Comments

riddledwords · November 21, 2017 at 6:14 pm

I think it is amazing to end up being with your bestfriend. because isn’t that what a partner should be?

    jeazelle · November 21, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    It would be amazing if you fall for each other.. But if only one falls, it’s a mess..

riddledwords · November 21, 2017 at 6:44 pm

This is so very true. Do you think this is the case in your situation?

    jeazelle · November 21, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    Yeah.. But i still think that it’s a beautiful experience..

riddledwords · November 21, 2017 at 7:10 pm

it is but it i also a very painful one. i have been there myself x

    jeazelle · November 21, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    Agree. It’s really painful. Confusing too.

riddledwords · November 21, 2017 at 7:53 pm

have you simply asked him how he feels?

    jeazelle · November 21, 2017 at 7:54 pm

    We talked about it. He told me he’s not yet ready. I’m not yet ready too so we both decided to be just friends. But he is still special for me.

MG · November 23, 2017 at 7:40 pm

Brilliant story. Well, mine did not finished with happy ending but it is definitely worth keeping dear people close. If she could understand what I felt back then…

    jeazelle · November 24, 2017 at 6:10 pm

    Maybe things happened for the better.. Things might be crazier had it happened the way we imagined it to be.

Naveed Hossain · November 24, 2017 at 2:44 am

It’s always a tricky line to walk, the thin thread between a romantic relationship vs a platonic one. I hope things work out for you!

    jeazelle · November 24, 2017 at 6:05 pm

    Thank you so much naveed. ❤

Soul Therapist · January 7, 2018 at 6:01 pm

This is one of the reasons i hate love and will never fall for it. It gets to make you a victim of your own emotions. I’m glad you didn’t loose your bestfriend because of your feelings for him.

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